Last week my fiance and I flew to Denver and spent five days touring apartments and navigating the city and surrounding suburbs. Following our New Year’s Eve wedding, we are planing to drive across the country and start our lives there.
The reason why? I’ve always loved the idea of living in Denver — even before my dad moved there. I desperately wanted to apply to University of Denver but never actually did because I couldn’t afford the cost of the tuition or the cost of living so far from home. However, my desire never waned.
When my dad moved to Denver and invited me to visit, my idealized notions of the beauty and of the residents obsessed with outdoor activities were confirmed. I experienced hiking, whitewater rafting, zip lining, skiing, snow shoeing and more. Seeing everyone constantly on the go yet still friendly and relaxed made me want to move there even more. The active, laid-back city captured me, and I knew that I needed to experience it full time.
With graduation, marriage and the start of my adult life about to commence, I know that I can’t again miss the opportunity to move there. Once I finish college, nothing will be tying me to Maryland, and I’m ready for an adventure. Both my fiance and I have lived in Maryland all our lives; we are ready to start fresh somewhere new, and we are excited to do it together.
No, we don’t have jobs out there yet. Still, we are planning to move there when our lease is up in Maryland. We’re determined to make it work no matter what.
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Maybe, like me, you’ve always wanted to live somewhere else. And if that’s the case, what’s stopping you? Most likely it’s fear — fear of the unknown. There are a lot of unknowns when you move, and if you’re doing it alone it’s that much scarier. But isn’t it scarier never to take the risk? Isn’t it scarier always longing to be somewhere else?
Close your eyes and picture the place you’ve always dreamed of living. What does it look like? Who else lives there? What sounds do you hear? What do the surroundings smell like? What attracts you to the location? Now, open your eyes and ask yourself, “Am I content here, or am I just too scared to be where I want?”
You’ll always be able to come up with reasons to stay, but the reasons to go are more compelling:
- Adventure: When you move to a new state, everything is yours to explore and experience for the first time. When was the last time you went somewhere new?
- Fresh start: If you’re like me, you’ve lived in the same state your whole life and have known the same people for years. Moving allows you to meet new people who may have a different way of life than yours. Most likely, moving will also allow you to start a new job with opportunities to learn and develop.
- Personal growth: Taking the risk of moving to a new state will challenge you. You’ll have to learn how to get around, make friends, find a job and find a place to live. You’ll be pushed out of your comfort zone for a while, but you will become a bolder, more confident person for rising to the challenge.
- New perspectives: You don’t have to travel far to broaden your thinking. Just a change in region may be enough. Colorado will introduce me to a more active, outdoorsy way of living; it will also introduce me to a lifestyle accepting of recreational marijuana. Just a hop from the East Cost to the western United States will invite new perspectives into my life.
This post isn’t a guide to help you make the move, and it isn’t directed at people who have solidified lives with homes, pets, children and solid careers. It’s directed at the 20 somethings, the ones who are still figuring out what they want to do in life; it’s directed at the uncertain ones and the slightly afraid ones. Take the chance now while there’s nothing big keeping you where you are. Just go!
Have you recently moved to a new state? Are you planning to move to a new state? Tell me what’s driving you to go and let me know all about your new adventure!