The importance of thanking your significant other

We’ve all heard it: the excitement that you feel at the beginning of a relationship will fade.

Yes, it’s true … in some ways. And in other ways it may be less true. When I see my fiance’s face light up with excitement, when we have a silly, giggly moment together, and when his hair is tousled just so, I still get butterflies in my stomach.

Most of the time, though, we are preoccupied with our busy lives, and life, including our romantic relationship, is not all that exciting. He works, and I have school, meaning we both have deadlines and tight schedules. I’m up at 5 a.m. most days to run, too, meaning we don’t get any extra snuggling in before our days begin. We recently adopted a dog, which added morning and evening walks to the to-do list. Maintaining an apartment and a life together requires cleaning, cooking and general errands. To sum it up, we’re both constantly busy!

Still, we try to find little ways to show our love and affection for the other person.


His day ends when he leaves the office, but my day doesn’t end when I leave school because of homework and projects. So he often is the one to make dinner and clean up the mess while I finish up my homework for the day.

I have days with only one — or no — class, so I’ll be at home for a large chunk of time. Since he only has weekends to get chores done, I try to help out by doing his laundry.

He takes care of exercising our dog in the morning because my marathon training plan has me running much farther than our dog would care to go. I offer to walk the dog alone on his busiest, weekday evenings, whether he’s stuck late at the office or not.

And I could go on, but my point is not to summarize all that we do for one another. My point is that it’s easy to get caught up in the busyness of the school/workweek and forget to say “thank you” when your significant other helps make your life just a little bit easier — with a hot meal, fresh clothes, a clean apartment, or one less thing on the to-do list.

“Thank you for making dinner.”

“Thank you for taking the dog on a walk.”

“Thank you for stopping at the store.”

It’s also easy to forget to add in why you’re thankful.

” … because I know you’re tired.”

” … because I know you wanted to sleep in before your another long day.”

” … because I know that traffic in the shopping center was horrible.”

Help out your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife, partner when you can. And also don’t forget to thank your significant other for helping you.

Taking the seemingly little things for granted is selfish and blind (hey, love is blind).  Maybe time doesn’t always allow for grand gestures of love, but if you look closely, I bet you’re receiving gestures of love every day. You just have to open your eyes to see them. And to continue receiving them, to show your appreciation, you just have to remember to say “THANK YOU!” If you really want to be a stellar lover, also include the why.


What does your significant other do that you’re thankful for? How do you say “thank you” for his or her gestures of love?


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